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Monday, December 08, 2025

Major Michael Dermot White 1936-2025


 Major Michael Dermot White, late the Queen's Royal Irish Hussars, has died aged 89.

He was born in 1936, son of Lieutenant-Colonel Michael White, of Slaveen, Macroom, Co Cork, and married 4 November, 1961, Elizabeth Susan Brazier-Creagh (born 29 August, 1940), scion of that Irish landed gentry family, elder daughter of Major-General Sir (Kilner) Rupert Brazier-Creagh, KBE, CB, DSO (1909-2002), by his first wife the former Elizabeth Mary Magor (1913-1967), by whom he had issue, three daughters, Katherine (born 7 Apr, 1963), Victoria (born 13 Aug, 1965), and Annette (born 4 Aug, 1966).

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Saturday, December 06, 2025

Patricia Jocelyn McCarter (nee St John) 1922-2025

 Patricia Mary McCarter (nee St John), who died 28 November, 2025, aged 103, was a scion of the Barons St John of Bletso.

She was born in 1922, daughter of Oliver Beauchanp St John (1895-1970), and his wife the former Winifred Lyndall Fox (who died 1966); and married 27 December, 1941, Professor John Alexander McCarter (1918-2005), son of Alexander McCarter, of Almonte, Ontario, Canada, by whom she had issue, three sons, David, Robert and William, and a daughter, Patricia.

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Francesca Fern Phythian-Adams (born 2025)


 Eve Phythian-Adams [nee Tandoi], wife of Henry William [Harry] Phythian-Adams, scion of that landed gentry family, gave birth to a daughter, Francesca Fern, 12 October, 2025, a sister for Giacomo Arthur Tandoi, who was born 27 September, 2018, and for Giulia Evelyn Tandoi, who was born 4 October, 2020.

Harry is a son of Mark Vevers Phythian-Adams [born 24 February, 1944], by his wife the former [Elizabeth] Anne Colchester [born 1946].

Harry's grandfather, the Rev William John Telia Phythian-Adams, DSO, MC [1888-1967], was Chaplain to King George V 1933-36, Chaplain to King Edward VIII, 1936, to King George VI 1936-52, and to Queen Elizabeth II from 1952.

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Litteton/Hardiman engagement


 The engagement was announced 6 December, 2025, between (Thomas) Alastair Westby Littleton (born 4 April, 1986), scion of the Barons Hatherton, son of Antony Robin Walhouse Westby Littleton (born 19 June, 1950), and his wife the Hon Aileen Mary Fitzherbert (born 29 May, 1953), scion of the Barons Stafford, and Georgina Eve Hardiman (born 1988), daughter of Paul D. Hardiman, and his wife the former Jayne Scully.

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Monteith/Hudson engagement

The engagement was announced 6 December, 2025, between Maximilian John Water (Max) Monteith (born 17 June, 1994), son of Desmond Michael Monteith (born 1957), of Oxhill, Warwickshire, and his wife the former Emma Jenefer Seyfried (born 1964), & Alicia Jane L. Hudson (born 1995), daughter of Benedict J. Hudson, of York, by his wife the former Tarnia Pattinson-Jones.

Max Moneith is descended maternally from the Holbech landed gentry family. His grandfather, John Beeton Seyfried (who died 28 March, 2008), married Anne Daphne Holbech (born 1939).

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Friday, December 05, 2025

George Nicholas Twine 1941-2025


George Nicholas Twine who died 16 November, 2025, aged 84, was descended from the Earls of Onslow.

He was born 13 May, 1941, 1st son of George Edward Twine (1909-1993), and his wife the former Barbara Opal Onslow Perkins (1915-1983), and twice, firstly 24 June, 1967, Maureen Anne Giggs, daughter of Charles Giggs of Hayling Island, Hampshire, and married 2ndly, 1998, Gillian Williams. From his first marriage he leaves a son, and three daughters.

His grandfather Sidney Perkins married 31 Aug, 1914, Minnie Margaret Matilda Mainwaring-Ellerker-Onslow (who died 19 March, 1978).

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Jane Theodora Cox (nee Vyvyan-Robinson) 1930-2025


Jane Theodora Cox, who died 27 November, 2025, aged 95, was a scion of the Vyvyan baronets.

She was born 1 January, 1930, the second daughter of Arthur Claude Vyvyan-Robinson (1880-1960), and his wife the former Patricia MacDonnell (1901-1982); and married 5 November, 1955, David Kenneth Wilton Cox (1924-2015), son of Richard Wilton Cox, of Harefield, London, by whom she had issue, two sons, Timothy (born 17 Apr, 1959), and Richard (born 31 Dec, 1961), and two daughters, Sarah (born 4 June, 1957), and Victoria (born 25 Feb, 1964).

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Peagram/Vinycomb engagement

 The engagement was announced 5 December, 2025, between Charles Sebastian Peagram (born 23 May, 1997), son of Michael J. Peagram, of Kirtlington, Oxfordshire, by his wife the former Katherine (Katy) Ellis, & Andie Katherine Colquhoun Vinycomb (born 1996), daughter of Bernard Andrew Colquhoun Vinycomb (born 1951), of Neacroft, Dorset, by his wife the former Frances A.L. Weston.

The bride-to-be is descended from the Robertson-Lockhart landed gentry family.

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Thursday, December 04, 2025

Hugh Richard Langrishe 1923-2025

Hugh Richard Langrishe, scion of the baronets of that name, died 25 November, 2025, aged 102.

He was born 8 January, 1923, the second son of Lieutenant-Colonel John du Plessis Langrishe (1883-1947), and his wife the former Helen Dorothy Collins (1885-1981); and married 1955, Pamela Mary Downes (1926-2023), daughter of William Downes, of Bourton Hall, Much Wenlock, Shropshire, by whom he had issue, a son, John William (born 31 Aug, 1959), and a daughter, Jane Dorothy (born 1956).

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New Equerry for Queen Camilla


 Major Rob Treasure has been appointed as the new equerry to Queen Camilla, succeeding Major Ollie Plunket, and is known for his charitable endeavours and military service.

Major Robert Henry Treasure, who was born in Hereford, 7 January, 1996, son of Stephen Michael Treasure (1953-2021), of Lower Galdeford, Ludlow, Shropshire, and his wife the former Lucy Mary Habershon (born 1955), and a grandson of Kenneth Richard Henry Habershon (1922-1994) of Aston-on-Clun House, Craven Arms, Shropshire, and his wife the former Mary Helen C. Scott (1923-2012).

Treasure's family is steeped in military service. His great-grandfather was Major Cyril Bernard Habershon (1887-1953), late the South Wales Borderers, who married Clare Constance Jones-Williams (1894-1971), daughter of Brevet Colonel Howell Richard Jones-Williams (1863-1927), of Llanfigan, Breconshire, late the Royal Welsh Fusiliers, by his wife the former Constance Laura Frances Travers (1865-1938), daughter of Capt Francis Steward Travers (1833- ), son of Rear-Admiral Sir Eaton Stannard Travers (1777-1858). 

Treasure is a platoon commander with the 1st Battalion of The Rifles. He has recently gained attention for completing "The World's Toughest Row," where he and his team rowed over 3,000 miles across the Atlantic Ocean in 40 days, raising more than £130,000 for charities, including Macmillan Cancer Support. This challenge was undertaken in memory of his father, who passed away from cancer in 2021. 

As the equerry to Queen Camilla, Major Treasure will assist in managing her daily schedule of official engagements and accompany her on public duties and overseas visits. Equerries are typically officers from the British Armed Forces who serve in this role for about three years, providing support to senior royals during their official duties. 

Major Treasure succeeds Major Ollie Plunket, who served as the Queen's first equerry since November 2022. Plunket was recognized for his dedication and service, having participated in significant royal events and charitable activities during his tenure. Queen Camilla expressed her gratitude for Plunket's contributions during a recent awards dinner, highlighting his excellence in the role. 

Major Rob Treasure's appointment continues a legacy of service and charity within the royal household, and he is expected to uphold the responsibilities associated with this prestigious position.

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Moore/Chilton engagement


The engagement was announced 4 December, 2025, between the Hon Garrett Alexander Moore [born 1986], scion of the Earls of Drogheda, second son of the 12th Earl of Drogheda [born 14 Jan, 1937], by his wife the former Alexandra Nicolette Henderson [born 1953], & Hope M. Chilton,  daughter of Mr and Mrs Richard Lockwood Chilton Jr.

Garrett Moore is a grandson maternally of the late Sir Nicholas Henderson, GCMG, KCVO [1919-2009], British Ambassador to Washington 1979-1982.

Garrett Moore's engagement 31 Oct, 2020, to Colleen Camp did not result in marriage.

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Sylvia Mary Victoria Stockdale (nee Nicholson) 1939-2025


 Sylvia Mary Victoria "Vicky" Stockdale (née Nicholson), who died 23 November, 2025, aged 86, was a descendant of the Barons Sudeley.

She was born in Bristol, 20 November, 1939, daughter of Brigadier Claude Nicholson (1898-1943), and his wife the former Hon Ursula Katharine Hanbury-Tracy (1909-1977), scion of the Barons Sudeley, and sister of the 6th Baron (1911-1941).

She married 20 February, 1965, Christopher Minshull Stockdale (1936-1970), scion of the Stockdale baronets, son of Lieutenant-Colonel Henry Charles Minshull Stockdale (1902-1981), and his wife the Hon Margaret Violet Henderson (1904-1976), scion of the Barons Faringdon, by whom she had issue, a daughter, Mary (born 9 June, 1968).

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Hon Sandra Debonnaire Patterson (nee Monson) 1937-2025


 The Hon Sandra Debonnaire Patterson, who died 27 November, 2025, aged 87, was a scion of the Barons Monson.

She was born 16 December, 1937, daughter of the 10th Baron Monson (1907-1958), and his wife the former Bettie Northrup Powell (who died 9 June, 2011); and married 24 June, 1958, Major William Garry Patterson (1932-2010), late The Life Guards, son of William Norman Patterson, of Hove, Sussex, by whom she had issue, a son James William John (born 20 Apr 1970), and three daughters, Debonnaire Jane (born 19 Aug, 1959), Juliet Mary (born 9 Feb 1963), and Annabel Kate (born 12 July, 1965).

Her eldest daughter Debonnaire married 31 May, 1984, Eduard Leopold Otto Philip Wilhelm Graf von Bismarck (born 29 Aug, 1951). Her second daughter is Baroness Rayleigh, wife of the 6th Baron (born 4 June, 1960).

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Charlotte Mary Wemyss (died 2025)


 Charlotte Mary Wemyss (nee Bristowe), died 1 December, 2025, aged 74.

She was a daughter of Lieutenant-Colonel Royle Lynn Bristowe (1901-1971), of Brookhampton Hall, Ickleton, Cambridgeshire, by his second wife the former Phyllis Mary Rush (1906-1993); and married 7 June, 1975,  Michael James Wemyss of that Ilk, Chief of the Clan Wemyss [born 10 Nov, 1947], of Wemyss Castle, Fife, son of David Wemyss of that Ilk (1920-2005), and his wife the Lady Jean Christian Bruce [born 12 Jan, 1923], daughter of Edward James Bruce, Earl of Elgin and Kincardine [1881-1968].

Her husband was a grandson of Michael John Erskine Wemyss of that Ilk (1888-1982), and his wife the Lady Victoria Alexandrina Violet Cavendish-Bentinck (1890-1994), daughter of the 6th Duke of Portland (1857-1943).

Charlotte Wemyss leaves two daughters, Hermione Mary (born 23 Apr, 1982), and Leonora Anne (born 25 Sept, 1986).

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Wednesday, December 03, 2025

Patrick Kenneth Stirling-Aird 1943-2025


 Patrick Kenneth Stirling-Aird, who died 8 November, 2025, aged 82, was head of that Scottish landed gentry family.

He was born 10 August, 1943, the elder son of Peter Douglas Miller Stirling-Aird of Kippendavie (1915-2004), and his first wife the former Penelope Anne Stirling; and married 1973, (Elizabeth) Susan Wakeham (born 1945), by whom he had issue, two daughters, Cordelia and Saskia.

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Tuesday, December 02, 2025

Hanbury/d'Abo marriage

 The marriage took place 29 November, 2025, at the Grosvenor Chapel, Mayfair, between David Mark James Hanbury (born 28 September, 1986), scion of that landed gentry family, son of Timothy James Hanbury (born 26 September, 1952), and his wife the former Emma Longman (born 14 January, 1959), & Anouska Maria d'Abo (born 1992), scion of that landed gentry family, daughter of (John) Henry Erland d'Abo (born 7 Oct, 1953), and his wife the former Tatiana Schoeller.

David Hanbury is a brother of the Countess of Durham and the Marchioness of Cholmondeley.

The bride's mother is a half-sister of Christopher Paul O'Neill (born 27 June, 1974) who is married to HRH Princess Madeleine of Sweden.

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Professor the 3rd Baron Brain, MA, DM, FRCP 1928-2025

 Professor the 3rd Baron Brain, MA, DM, FRCP, died in Canada, 6 November, 2025. He was 97.

Lord Brain was Professor of Medicine, at McMaster University, Hamilton, Ontario, Canada.

He was born 6 August, 1928, the second son the 1st Baron Brain (1895-1966) and his wife the former Stella Langdon-Down.

Michael Cottrell Brain graduated from New College, Oxford University, in 1953 as a Bachelor of Surgery. He graduated in 1953 with a Diploma in Tropical Medicine and Hygiene. Brain served as a Captain in the Royal Army Medical Corps. He was registered as a Member, Royal College of Physicians, London (M.R.C.P.) in 1955. He graduated from New College, Oxford in 1955 with a Master of Arts (M.A.) He was appointed Fellow, Royal College of Physicians, Canada (F.R.C.P.) in 1958. He graduated from New College, Oxford University, Oxford, in 1963 with a Doctor of Medicine (D.M.)1 He was a physician between 1966 and 1969 at Hammersmith Hospital, Hammersmith, London.  He was appointed Fellow, Royal College of Physicians, London (F.R.C.P.) in 1968. He was Professor of Medicine between 1969 and 1976 at McMaster University, Hamilton, Ontario.

Brain's father, was FRCP 1931; President of the Royal College of Physicians 1950-57; knighted 1952; created a Baronet in 1954, FRS 1964, and raised to the peerage in 1962 as Baron Brain. At his demise, 29 Dec, 1966, he was succeeded by his elder son, Christopher, who died without male issue, 15 Aug, 2014.

Michael Brain married 10 December, 1960, Dr the Hon Elizabeth Ann Herbert (born 17 Nov, 1933), elder daughter of the life peer the Baron Tangley, KBE (1899-1973), and his wife the former Gwendolen Hilda Judd, by whom he had issue, a son the Hon Thomas Russell Brain, and two daughters, the Hon Hilary and the Hon Philippa Brain. The only son, born 23 Oct, 1965, succeeds as 4th Baron Brain and a Baronet.

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Sir Terence Reade McConnell, 5th Baronet 1958-2025

 Sir (Terence) Reade McConnell, 5th Baronet, died at Limoges, France, 28 November, 2025. He was 66.

He was born 16 November, 1959, the elder son of James Angus McConnell (1933-2018), and his wife the former Elizabeth Jillian Harris, and was a grandson of Sir Robert Melville Terence McConnell, 3rd Baronet (1902-1987).

He succeeded to the baronetcy (cr. UK 1900), on the death of his uncle, Sir Robert McConnell, 4th Bt, 13 July, 2021.

He married 16 November, 1987, Lorel Natalie Willetts, by whom he had issue, a son, James, and a daughter, Kitty (born 8 Sept, 1991). The son, James Alexander McConnell, born 29 August, 1989, succeeds to the baronetcy.

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Monday, December 01, 2025

Andrew Mountbatten-Windsor's two knighthoods annulled and erased


 The London Gazette, 1 December, 2025, has two notices as follows "to be dated 30 October 2025":

THE KING has directed that the appointment of Andrew Albert Christian Edward MOUNTBATTEN-WINDSOR to be a Knight Companion of the Most Noble Order of the Garter, dated 23 April 2006, shall be cancelled and annulled and that his name shall be erased from the Register of the said Order.

THE KING has directed that the appointment of Andrew Albert Christian Edward MOUNTBATTEN-WINDSOR to be a Knight Grand Cross of the Royal Victorian Order, dated 19 February 2011, shall be cancelled and annulled and that his name shall be erased from the Register of the said Order.

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Sunday, November 30, 2025

Sir Tom Stoppard, OM, CBE, FRSL 1937-2025


 Sir Tom Stoppard, who has died aged 88, was a playwright whose works combine dazzling verbal and theatrical flair with intellectual inquiry, and won him three Oliviers, five Tonies and an astonishing ten Evening Standard Theatre Awards. These recognized plays as diverse as his 1966 breakthrough hit Rosencrantz and Guildenstern are Dead, 1982’s The Real Thing and the instant modern classic Arcadia in 1993. They also included special awards in 2011 saluting his work translating Russian drama, particularly Chekhov, and in 2014 proclaiming him Britain’s greatest living playwright.

“I feel a bit guilty, because I haven’t done anything [i.e. written a play] this year,” he said at the ceremony in 2014. “But then I remembered I got married.” Debunking his professional status with a joke about his recent third marriage - to Sabrina Guinness, part of the “banking line” of the eminent Guinness family - was typical of Stoppard, who retained an observer’s ironic distance despite having become very much part of the Establishment.

He had a lucrative second career as a writer or co-writer of original screenplays – Terry Gilliam’s Brazil, an Indiana Jones and a Star Wars installment, Parade’s End on TV and most famously Shakespeare in Love, for which he won an Oscar in 1998 - and as an anonymous polisher of others’ dialogue.

But he was essentially a creature of the stage and a highly visible part of the London social whirl: tall and dandyish with a cockade of dark hair and what one critic called a “huge moose jaw”, always good for an apercu or an opinion. Stoppard once opined that if Shakespeare were alive today he'd be writing soap operas. Then he corrected himself: he’d be “rewriting” them.

Born Tomáš Sträussler in Zlin, Czechoslovakia in 1937, Stoppard was subject to multiple displacements by the Second World War, and for decades afterwards remained heedless of his Jewish heritage, which he eventually explored in his late masterpiece Leopoldstadt in 2020.

When his mother married army major Kenneth Stoppard, eight-year-old Tomáš Sträussler received a new surname and an English identity which he embraced with romantic gusto. An autodidact who left school at 17, he had an omnivorous hunger for knowledge, a passion for cricket and an enormous appetite for cigarettes.

Success brought him all the trappings of an English gent – a country house, first editions of Dickens – and he was knighted in 1997. But in that 2015 interview he told me he still felt like an outsider, even in London: for years he kept a flat in Chelsea Harbour and complained that after the erection of certain riverside towers he could no longer set his watch by Big Ben.

Though gregarious, charming and even courtly in his manners he was a private man who regretted the gossipy attention that attended his second marriage to the writer and TV presenter Dr Miriam Stoppard and his relationship with actress Felicity Kendal, his muse for a decade or so. A later affair with actress Sinead Cusack, preceding his marriage to Guiness, was revealed in Hermione Lee’s definitive 2020 biography of him. Guinness survives him, as do his sons Oliver and Barney from his first marriage to Josie Ingle and William and Ed – an actor - with Miriam.

Stoppard’s doctor father Eugen worked for the shoe company Bata. When Germany invaded Czechoslovakia the family – including Stoppard’s older brother Petr – fled to Singapore, where the company had a factory. In 1942, his mother Martha took her sons to India as Japan threatened Singapore; Eugen was due to join them later but the ship he sailed on was torpedoed and sunk.

In 1945 Martha married Kenneth Stoppard and the following year they moved to the UK. Tom, as he now became, only learned in 1993 from a cousin that his heritage was entirely Jewish, and that all four grandparents and many other relatives had been murdered in the Nazi death camps. He first wrote directly about this in a 1993 article, On Being Jewish, in Tina Brown’s Talk magazine, but noted that many of the characters he’d created over the preceding three decades did not fit entirely into the milieu in which they found themselves.

After school in Nottinghamshire and Yorkshire he joined the Western Daily Press in 1954, and later the Bristol Evening Post, and from 1962-3 was theatre critic of Scene magazine in London. His early years in journalism gave rise to several possibly apocryphal stories that nonetheless fed the Stoppard myth. Having claimed an interest in politics he was asked by an editor to name the Home Secretary and replied: “I said I was interested, not obsessed.”

Finding himself sat behind his hero Harold Pinter at a production of the latter’s play The Birthday Party he blurted “are you Harold Pinter or do you only look like him?” and was met by a baleful, silencing stare. (Decades later, Stoppard supposedly said that rather than rename London’s Comedy Theatre in Pinter’s honour it would be simpler for the famously irascible Pinter to change his name to “Harold Comedy”.)

From 1953 he wrote radio plays and his 1960 stage drama, A Walk on Water, was mounted in Hamburg then broadcast on commercial television. A grant in 1964 enabled him to produce the script that would eventually become the metatheatrical Rosencrantz and Guildenstern Are Dead, featuring the existential musings of the two peripheral (and interchangeable) characters from Hamlet.

It was staged at the Edinburgh Festival in 1966 and the following year at the National Theatre at the Old Vic. “What’s it about?” an audience member is supposed to have asked him, eliciting the reply: “It’s about to make me very rich.” The play became a sensation, and Stoppard was named Most Promising Playwright in the 1967 Evening Standard Theatre Awards.

More hits followed: the larky Jumpers (1972) which mixed philosophy and gymnastics; the erudite Travesties (1974) which imagines a meeting between Lenin, James Joyce and Dadaist poet Tristan Tzara in 1917; the jokey media satire Night and Day (1978) and The Real Thing (1982) about love and fidelity. All won Standard awards, and they represent a smidgen of his prolific early output on stage, TV and radio.

The Real Thing featured a Stoppard-esque writer in a relationship with an actress, played in the original production by Felicity Kendal, and is often cited incorrectly as a portrait of Stoppard’s affair with her (which in fact began later). Having repeated this error in an article about a 2010 revival I sent a note of apology to Stoppard. He replied with a charming card telling me not to worry, because “the actress in the revival looks rather like Fliss, so I’m on a sticky wicket”.

His correspondence skills were legendary, he was (according to his son Barnaby) a hands-on and affectionate father even while writing and smoking furiously; and he read prodigious amounts. After co-writing Brazil with Gilliam in 1985 film took up increasing amounts of his time: he adapted Empire of the Sun, The Russia House and Enigma, among other full or partial writing credits.

But still the plays came: Hapgood, Arcadia, Indian Ink, The Invention of Love and in 2002 the magnificent National Theatre trilogy The Coast of Utopia, about pre-revolutionary Russia. In 2006, he addressed his Czech heritage, his attitude to Englishness, communism and counterculture music in Rock ‘n’ Roll, which opened at the Royal Court and starred Sinead Cusack.

A surprise came in 2012, when Stoppard, at the age of 75, delivered a sumptuous five-part BBC adaptation of Ford Madox Ford’s tetralogy of novels Parade’s End, about families in the run up to and throughout World War One, as well as the script for Joe Wright’s adaptation of Anna Karenina.

His 2015 stage play The Hard Problem lived up to its name, but the sprawling Leopoldstadt, about a Viennese Jewish family, was regarded by many as a semi-autobiographical magnum opus that set a capstone on his career. The original sold-out West End run in 2020 was interrupted by the Covid pandemic, but it returned in 2021 and won the Tony Award for Best Play on Broadway in 2022.

Before his death he witnessed stunning revivals of The Real Thing at the Old Vic and of Rock ‘n’ Roll and The Invention of Love at Hampstead Theatre. A revival of Indian Ink, once again starring Felicity Kendal - albeit in a different role - opens at Hampstead on Dec 15.

West End theatres will dim their lights for two minutes at 7pm on Tuesday 2 December in remembrance of Stoppard, with Kash Bennett, President of the Society of London Theatre, saying, “We are deeply saddened by the passing of Sir Tom Stoppard... His loss creates a vast void in our cultural world, and his legacy will continue to inspire.”

Stoppard leaves a peerless body of work and can claim to have both entertained us and fought the forces of oppression with his pen. And like his fellow revolutionary writers and ardent cricketers, Samuel Beckett and Harold Pinter, his name became a byword for a recognisable seam of drama. Tom Stoppard may be gone, but a play that is witty, clever, showmanlike and provoking will always be “Stoppardian”.


Stoppard was married three times. His first marriage (1965–1972) was to Josie Ingle, a nurse. His second marriage (1972–92) was to Dr Miriam Stern; they separated when he began a relationship with actress Felicity Kendal. He also had a relationship with actress Sinéad Cusack, but she made it clear she wished to remain married to Jeremy Irons and stay close to their two sons. Also, after she was reunited with a son she had given up for adoption, she wished to spend time with him in Dublin rather than with Stoppard in the house they shared in France. He had two sons from each of his first two marriages: Oliver Stoppard, Barnaby Stoppard, the actor Ed Stoppard, and Will Stoppard, who is married to violinist Linzi Stoppard. In 2014 he married Sabrina Jane Guinness (born 9 January, 1955), of James Edward Alexander Rundell Guinness CBE (1924–2006), of Coldpiece Farm, Hound Green, near Basingstoke, Hampshire, a Second World War veteran of the Royal Navy, and a banker with Guinness Mahon, the Guinness Peat Group, and Provident Mutual Life Assurance, also Chairman of the Public Works Loan Board 1970–90, and Pauline Vivien (1926–2017), daughter of Lieutenant-Colonel Howard Vivien Mander, MC, of Congreve Manor, Penkridge, Staffordshire, a director of his family's business, Mander Brothers. Guinness is a member of the "banking line" of the Guinness family, founders of Guinness Mahon in 1836, which descends from Samuel Guinness (1727–1795), the brother of Arthur Guinness.

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